Deeksha Shrivastava

How do you judge someone? Well, the first question should be, How do you know you are judging someone? When you give your views on someone with an expression that what you say is true or convincing, you are judging the person. We most often talk about being judged, and what about you judging someone? Aren't you forming an opinion about them? Let's look at the picture upside-down. Isn't it a chain reaction? You judging someone and someone judging you. It's a loop. On what basis do we judge?  Caste - We don't know which caste we may be born in.  Colour - We get that from our parents.  Looks - We get that from our parents too.  Language - Oh come on! We English speakers think ourselves to be way too superior right? Please think over it again.  Background - You never know. Some of you may be super rich, some poor, some from big cities and others from a small village. You never know!!!!! You can give me more reason but you won't sound reasonable. I can s...

Hi mom, I'm sorry and I'm thankful I'm sorry I'm sorry for being me I'm sorry for not listening I'm sorry for being rude I'm sorry that you have to wake up at 5 just to iron my uniform and pack my lunch I'm sorry that I was never around when you wanted me to be I'm sorry for letting you cry by yourself I'm sorry for not talking I'm sorry for not sharing the pain you had, the thoughts you had I'm sorry for being selfish I'm sorry for not letting you sleep an hour more I'm sorry for letting you work until your back hurt I'm sorry that I never asked if you were sick I'm sorry that I don't know how many times you have slept hungry I'm sorry that I wasn't the child you wanted me to be I'm sorry that it took me so long to understand I'm thankful I'm thankful for you being you I'm thankful for you staying by my side I'm thankful for you being selfless I'm thankful that ...

He will have to learn, I know, that all men are not just, all men are not true. But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is, a hero, that for every enemy, there is a friend. It will take time, I know but teach him if you can, that a dollar earned is of far more value than five found. Teach him to learn to lose and also to enjoy winning. Steer him away from envy if you can, teach him the secret of quite laughter. Let him learn early that, bullies are the easiest to lick. Teach him if you can the wonder of books, but also give him quiet to ponder, the eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun and flowers on a green hillside. In school teach him it is far more honourable to fail, than to cheat. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if everyone tells him that he is wrong. Teach him to be gentle with gentle people and tough with the tough. Try to, give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone is getting on the band wagon. Te...

Last year around February, when I was taking my classes, we were told by the institute to write a message, so we all were given a piece of yellow drawing sheet to imprint that beautiful message. I was reluctant to even take that sheet, because I knew I was bad at creativity and writing stuff, so I won't be able to do anything. Anyway because everyone was taking it, I took it as well. Surrounded by a lot of creative people I was disheartened much to say I was't willing to do anything. Back that day sitting alone in my room I was trying hard thinking what should I write and how to present that blank sheet in an impressive manner, I called my sister asking her some recommendations. I was so not in mood to do anything that I asked her to write it for me, but she couldn't think of anything as well. Eventually my brain was empty, I just couldn't think of something good. After a lot of effort I came up with this but my write up was general and we were given a specific t...

We search for love for ourselves  through others, we search for appreciation for ourselves through others. Why is it that we can't love ourselves?? Shouldn't the first word of appreciation come from self?? Learning to love ourselves should be the first thing that should be taught but its always other-way round, In school what taught is that you have to be better than the others, there is quite similar scenario at home and we end up comparing ourselves to someone who is totally different from us. Leaving us to pity at our pathetic self. Everyone has different backgrounds, facilities, body, complexion, brain and a lot more smaller things, the smallest thing all of yours DNA is different. How can you compare yourself with someone so different?? Aren't you insulting your unique self? Stop it now. We should appreciate the smallest move we have made, the smallest progress, which will turn big someday. Waiting for someone else to recognise your efforts is a waste ... be...

Sexual harassment. The topic itself is disturbing, isn't it? Then what is the reason I'm here talking about it? I actually thought of writing on this topic when everyone was expressing their empathy over the rape cases earlier this year. However, I thought I better not. The stats are disturbing as well. Most of the cases go unreported and those reported are hushed by fabricating the evidences along with the humiliation or embarrassment faced by the person. And then everything is blamed on the dressing attire, your way of talking, the people you hang out with. I am aghast by the lame sense of people justifying why it is the victims fault. Actually the problem is we trying to become independent and demanding equality.  Don't you think?? We should live in a house forever locked. And what if someone breaks in? Being cautious of each and every person around us, it's not possible. How can you? Or we should adjust ourselves that these things are just a part of life? We ...

"Time is the most precious resource" is one of the most often used phrase. Pondering upon the thought you might have understood why. But we are too ignorant. Right? And of course we can't handle anyone lecturing us about how to use the time. Even though it is said-everything heals with time. As much as time builds bridges, it destroys some as well. The opportunities we get disappear with time, it may be your relationship, your career, your business. Even though there is always a next time, still the opportunity is missed and it's never the same again.  And you know we are master procrastinators, "I'll do it after I have accomplished this", "I'll do it this time for sure", "I don't have time today, I'll do it tomorrow". When you'll look into the bigger picture these habits are only harming us. If you have genuinely  big dreams to achieve, than you better watch out. "OUR GREATEST WEAKNESS LIES IN GIVIN...

Looking at the night sky not being able to sleep, Listening the birds chipper when the world is asleep, Sound of the vehicle passing by on the lone roads, The beautiful silence that prevails, when the world is at peace The serene dawn Made me think about who we are and who we want to be. Longing for peace at the end of the day, within an hour or two of light, the world will be busy running for their life. How much time do we take to appreciate the things around us? Looking for peace and finding happiness in something that's too far. Even if we reach where we want to we'll be searching for happiness and joy. "You have to stop once in a while to appreciate the small things around you. Go out and smell the flowers once in a while or take a stroll in the park. You will see the beauty in life." - TRISTON JAN TIZON When you are shooting for the stars, even if you land on one, if you haven't acknowledged the smell, texture, the life supported by e...

Scared? Are you? Scared of going off beat? Scared what people will think? Scared what the outcome will be? Scared about other's expectations? Scared of doing something different? Scared to give a try? Scared, you won't make it? How long will you be? What if you would've never tried to ride a bicycle? Cause you were scared of being hurt or never joined a sport because you were scared. But you did even you didn't know what the outcome will be. Maybe you became too good or you just ended up being a looser.  Well, you weren't a looser at all. You surely did learn something and it's actually better than those who never tried, they know nothing.  Most of the things we are scared about are just our thoughts which do not have an end. They are meaningless, without any basis. You are limiting yourself, you let go lot of opportunities because of your thoughts. Whenever you are not able to achieve something, you assume it to be a sheer wastage of time. H...

Going after a dream has a price. It may mean abandoning our habits, it may make us go through hardships , or it may lead us to disappointment. But however costly, it is never as high as the price paid by people who live in his/her comfort zone . - The Zahir, Paulo Coelho Have you made enough efforts to succeed or accomplish whatever you want? Or you just dream to do something? Have you paid the price for that dream? Or are you busy making excuses? You had a setback and you start making excuses just to justify your setback. You and me, we humans are excuse making machines. You don't fail, it's just a setback which you can overcome. No one ever care about your excuses, you lost means you lost, no one is ever gonna ask you why you lost. You have to struggle alone with no one by your side . Dealing with naysayers, fighting with depression and anxiety. You may have to work three jobs at a time or have to work 24*7 without weekends to prove yourself right. These costs, howeve...