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Let Us Take The Responsibility

Sexual harassment. The topic itself is disturbing, isn't it? Then what is the reason I'm here talking about it? I actually thought of writing on this topic when everyone was expressing their empathy over the rape cases earlier this year. However, I thought I better not.

The stats are disturbing as well. Most of the cases go unreported and those reported are hushed by fabricating the evidences along with the humiliation or embarrassment faced by the person.

And then everything is blamed on the dressing attire, your way of talking, the people you hang out with. I am aghast by the lame sense of people justifying why it is the victims fault. Actually the problem is we trying to become independent and demanding equality.  Don't you think?? We should live in a house forever locked. And what if someone breaks in?

Being cautious of each and every person around us, it's not possible. How can you? Or we should adjust ourselves that these things are just a part of life? We are afraid to go out or hang out late just because of these cases. Stepping out with fear of being stalked, touched, followed, groped. Changing paths everyday, trying to be in a crowded place, those glare making uncomfortable. A person can still feel those touch and stares like it was yesterday.

Going through this is not like having a wound that bleeds for a week. But it breaks the person up. You might have heard 'ripping the chest apart' it's something like that. A belief that there is good is broken, person is left with no courage or confidence to face the world. Which leads to stress and social withdrawal, sleep and eating difficulties, overall health impairment.

How is it about thinking just for a fine minute that you can't trust anyone and everyone is exactly the same. This leads to depression and if not, than to fear. How is it to live like that for whole life?

You can't measure the pain, you can't explain as well. But instead you can provide the person support and help them see good. Make them believe not everyone is alike. Make them speak about the issue and be sure you stand by them. We have to take responsibility, it's always one man at a time.

Don't show your aggression on cases that grab the media attention. We worry for a while and then let it go. Stand by for the one who is close to you, the person who is hiding somewhere enduring it all. These cases happen everyday and these can be controlled if all cases are reported. Be the one who stands by to support and not the one who stands by to humiliate. Everyone should be respected in the same manner you want respect for your peers.

Yes, there are fake cases as well. Isn't law for finding out the truth? let's leave some things to them.

Last question I would like to ask - have you ever asked your children, siblings, best friend, friends, colleagues that they have ever experienced something like this?? You might hear some shocking answers.


These are my thoughts, if you have some different options, I respect that.

Thank You

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